I just broke up with my fiancé with whom I share a joint account. Am I the asshole for asking for 100% of the money from our joint account because I think he should compensate me for the time I lost with him?
I have been dating my fiancé for 3 years and we have been working for 2 years since graduation. He proposed to me last December and since then I have asked him to organize our wedding, which I would prefer to have as soon as possible because I am tired of working and want to be a housewife.
He told me he would prefer to have the wedding next year because he needs time to plan the wedding but I want it to take place preferably by the end of this year. Since he agreed to stay with my parents after the wedding, there should be no problem.
I just can’t understand why he wants to wait until next year to have the wedding because I was actually asking for a very simple wedding. I just wanted to invite our friends and relatives over for dinner at a mid-range hotel like Pan Pacific and get very affordable wedding bands like Cartier. He can certainly afford it because he has $30,000 in his personal savings account and he earns $5,000 a month.
I’m not even asking for much because I know there are way more expensive places to have a banquet and way more high end jewelry brands to get wedding bands. But he thinks the alliances and hotels I have chosen are too extravagant even though I offered to help him pay 20% of all expenses. Because of all these issues, we argued a lot and I finally decided to break up with him because I realize that he is a very selfish person who doesn’t even care at all about what I want. Even the engagement ring he gave me was a tiny 0.9 carat that only cost $9,000, although I specifically told him I wanted a 1.5 carat.
Now that we broke up we are discussing how to split the money from our joint account and he said he will give me half of the money inside which is only $10,000. His excuse for only giving me half the money is that he was the only one contributing to the joint account. He contributed 100% of the joint account but it was me who encouraged him to save. Whenever he wanted to buy useless things like Nintendo Switch, I stopped him from buying them. Without me, he wouldn’t even have any savings at all. Plus, I wasted 3 years of my life with him so I think I deserve more than $10k. Honestly, even if he gives me all the money, which is only $20,000, I still don’t think that’s enough to make up for the 3 years. But he seems reluctant to give me 100% of the money and keeps giving me all sorts of lame excuses. Should I keep asking for $20,000 or should I settle for $10,000? I’m so tired of fighting for this.